Practical Relationship Tip #2!
Previously we’ve considered the negative affects criticism can have on relationships.
Today we shift focus to ‘contempt’. Contempt often results from negative thoughts about our partner, frequently connected to unresolved differences. It’s certainly easy to think negatively about your partner, I’m sure we’ve all done that…especially when you see yourself as superior in some area of the relationship! However, as these negative thoughts persist contempt builds and festers rearing its head in many different ways e.g. name-calling, eye-rolling, mockery and hostile humour. The message received by our partner is one of disgust, making problem solving near impossible, after all who wants to work on issues with someone that’s disgusted by them!
Contempt can be particular harmful to relationships. One way to reduce contempt is to focus on your partners positive contributions to the relationship and share your appreciation of these.